This is more of a quick note than a reasoned post. I've had the feeling for years that parenting among the well-to-do is unhealthy--too much focus on coddling and packaging kids, not enough human connection, not enough failure.
There's a new book by Madeline Levine, The Price of Privilege that addresses these issues. Here's an interview with her in the Washington Post. Here's a review of studies published in 2005 in Psychology Today.