Karoli puts Lori Drew's self-serving words into real language
Permit me to paraphrase in real language: That bitch attacked my precious, and I want to beat the shit out of her in person. Or her parents. But since that wasn’t an option, I came up with a plan…
Deceiving children is problematic to begin with, but doing so by tapping into their emotional weaknesses is outright deadly. At a gut level, Lori knew that she could capture Megan's attention by creating a male character that showed interest. In other words, Lori knew how to manipulate Megan's attention and emotions. She capitalized on that knowledge, self-justifying it as responsible parenting. She knew how to have the "perfect" relationship with Megan, to gain her trust. This is knowledge that adults have because we've had our mistakes and learned how to negotiate social interactions. The reason that Megan's relationships were so fraught was probably not because she was evil but because she and her peers were struggling with how to appropriately interact with one another. It's clear from Megan's reaction to Josh that she was fully capable of positive interactions in a social context not strife with miscommunication and the confusion of school status. If she were truly as messed up as Lori assumed her to be, she would not be capable of this.
In my opinion, by choosing to "teach her a lesson," Lori acted in a manner that was both ethically and morally inappropriate. Revenge is foolish in every context, but adults should never take revenge on children, regardless of how much those children upset them. This is an abuse of power. Furthermore, it signals to Lori's daughter that revenge is an OK response to being hurt. Whatever happened to "turn the other cheek"? For a Christian society, we don't do a good job of upholding basic Christian values.
I first heard about Lori Drew from Nordette, who asked, When Should Cyberbullying Be Considered A Crime? Nordette didn't use her name, but the commenters did.
Why is Drew a disgusting mother? She set up a fake account on Myspace, pretended to be a "cute guy", and went after her neighbor's 13 year-old daughter, Megan Meier. Drew posted to Megan's account, causing Megan to believed to believe that the cute guy was attracted to her. Drew then posted a hateful, hurtful rejection.
Megan Meier committed suicide minutes after reading the rejection. Drew felt little remorse.
Drew stated she knew “arguments” had broken out between Megan and others on “my space”. Drew felt this incident contributed to Megan’s suicide but she did not feel “as guilty” because at the funeral she found out “Megan had tried to commit suicide before.”
Karoli posted a passionate denunciation of Drew's actions: Charge Lori Drew With Child Abuse.
[Cyberbullying] is intolerable when it’s done by peers, but the real crime here is that it was an adult, fully 35 years her senior who was aware of her depression and ADHD and took advantage of her anyway.
Here’s a news flash for Lori Drew: Megan’s final words to her mother were this: “You’re supposed to be my mom! You’re supposed to be on my side!” Those words could just as easily be applied to you, Lori Drew. “You’re supposed to be an adult! You’re supposed to protect kids, not abuse them online or otherwise.”
Impersonating, stalking and bullying a child online is child abuse.
We create families, create communities, and make our contributions daily, in hopes of making those communities better for our families and the families who share them with us.
Drew surely qualifies as a poisonous parent -- but what are we to do?
There's a vigil for Megan tonight in her home town. As you read this, think about what you can do to have a virtual, daily vigil. Think about what you can do to keep the children in your life safe--not just your kids, but all the kids you come in contact with. Think what you can do to put a stop to cyberbullying and face-to-face bullying.