Pal MD is a straight physician and a father. After watching his daughter at services, it dawns on him: What the family values folks don't get about family.
The anti-gay marriage folks think that family is all about fear, sex, and violence. For them, marriage is about control---control of who marries and why, control of the woman by the man. It's also about sex. Sure, marriage and sex are related, but most people understand that sex is only one aspect of marriage. If you listen to the Prop 8 types, you'd think that gay people get married for the sex (and that soon enough people will marry their cousins or their goat for sex). News flash, folks---gay people aren't getting married in order to have sex. They can already do that (thanks to a recent supreme court decision). They get married for the same reasons as most straight couples---love, comfort, freedom from fear. Believe it or not, some gay people want to trade places when their daughter is having a tantrum, and want to cuddle in bed afterward. They don't want to have to worry that when their kid is in the hospital, there will be a problem figuring out who the "real" parent is.
These folks who fought [for passage of] Prop 8 don't understand the real meaning of family, of love, of comfort. For most of us, it's not about fulfilling one fringe group's idea of what God wants. It's about creating a life with another, sharing a physical and emotional space with someone, rejoicing together when things are good, and holding each other when things are tough. It's human.