I haven't written about cyberbullying, online mis-conduct, and related issues for a while. It isn't that the issue is unimportant, just more pressing things to talk about.
There was a panel at SXSWi:
That's Not My Name: Beating Down Misogyny Online
This panel explores the complex and violent ways that women are treated online, specifically feminists when they speak publicly about politics. Presenting some of the lead feminist voices on the internet we will discuss and share our war stories while offering tips for how to survive the anti-feminist internet.
Liz Henry liveblogged the panel.
I still think that what Dorothea Salo said in 2007 is strong:
But the cycle can be broken. It just has to be broken by men....
So here is what you do, if you’re a man wanting to help. You say, “Um, was that supposed to be funny? Because, not laughing here.” You say, “Hey, could we not use that phrase? I don’t like it.” You say to the main perpetrators, in IRC whispers or private email or whatever, “Hey, would you mind toning down the jokes? That kind of talk really bothers me.”
The key here is to express that the demeaning of women bothers you, you personally.
Previous Posts
- Blog Civility December 22, 2005
- Take Back the Blog April 2007
- Blogs Can Talk Past Each Other April 14, 2006
- Blog Civility: Online Integrity Pledge May 6, 2006
- Rudeness February 6 2006
- Craig Weller's Civility in Conflict April 11 2006
- The Death of Civility January 17 2006
- How To Disagree Online Without Being Disagreeable April 30 2006
- Smart or Happy? July 3 2004
- Laura at Apt 11D: Disagree or Attack? July 3 2004
- Polarization and Moving the Middle December 4 2004
- My Blogging Principles December 4 2005
Previous commentary and other folks' work:
- Outline of How To Disagree Without Being Disagreeable
- Blog Civility
- Making An Effective Complaint
- Nancy White: Blog Civility
- Brad Warthen's Civility Posts
- Praxis101: Civility Wiki
- Kathy Sierra: Are "Nice" and "Honest" Mutually Exclusive?
- Kevin Drum: Blog Civility
- Jane Galt: Kevin Drum's Blog Civility
- PubliusTX: Kevin Drum's Blog Civility
- Mike Reed's Flame Warriors
- Teresa Nielsen Hayden: Some things I know about moderating conversations in virtual space
- Dorothea Salo: What Some Folks Can Do, If They Choose
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