Update: I've changed the title of this post, deciding to have one big enormous post for both last weeks (days 1-5) and this weeks (day 6-10), plus responses.
At The Thinking Person's Guide to Autism, Conversations between Adults with Autism and Parents of Children with Disabilities, Including Autism.
Why the dialogues?
....being a parent of a disabled child is not the same experience as having a disability, and we need to figure out how we can have productive conversations about that disconnect -- especially when it affects our ability to work towards common goals.
Building constructive conversations and creating real social change isn't a garden party -- it is hard work. It requires steely listening, forcing ourselves to bench purely defensive reactions, and honestly trying to understand unfamiliar perspectives and direct criticism. It might require walking away from the screen and giving yourself time to process, and that's fine. You don't have to participate in these dialogues to learn from them.
- Link to the whole series
- Monday, September 19, 2011: Zoe of Illusion of Competence to Robert Rummel-Hudson
- Tuesday, September 20, 2011: Robert Rummel-Hudson to Zoe
- Wednesday, September 21, 2011: Ari Ne'eman of Autistic Self-Advocacy Network (ASAN)
- Thursday, September 22, 2011: Zoe of Illusion of Competence
- Friday, September 23, 2011: Robert Rummel-Hudson
- Saturday, September 24, 2011: The Self-Advocate/Parent Dialogues: Intermission
- Monday, September 26, 2011: Melody Latimer
- Tuesday, September 27, 2011: Kassiane
- Wednesday, September 28, 2011 Amanda Forest Vivian
- Thursday, September 29, 2011 Kristina Chew
- Friday, September 30, 2011 Paula C. Durbin-Westby
Responses on or after Monday, September 19, 2011(I Will Be Updating This Silently)
- Monday, September 19, 2011 Landon Bryce, "I Just Think I'm a Problem": We Are All "Like That" at ThAutCast
- Tuesday, September 20, 2011 John Wills Lloyd Gaining Perspective at EDB Blog
- Tuesday, September 20, 2011 Sam, Autistic Self Advocates and Parent Advocates at Uncle Sam's Blog
- Tuesday, September 20, 2011 Landon Bryce Letter to a Broken Shepherd at ThAutCast
- Wednesday, September 21, 2011 Andi, The Advocacy Wars: Different not Less at Bringing the Sunshine
- Friday September 23, 2011 Landon Bryce, Parents: How, and How Not To, Listen to Adults with Autism at ThAutCast
- Friday, September 23, 2011 Neurdivergent K, "Dialogue", Disillusionment, Disheartening at Radical Neurodivergence Speaking
- Friday, September 23, 2011 Kim Wombles, Insert Deep, Meaningful Words Here at Countering
- Saturday, September 24, 2011 Emily Willingham, The Importance of Open Discussion at A Life Less Ordinary
- Saturday, September 24, 2011 Robert Rummel-Hudson Dialogue at Fighting Monsters with Rubber Swords
- Saturday, September 24, 2011 Neurodivergent K On the Dialogues and the Accompanying Twittergate at Radical Neurodivergence Speaking
- Saturday, September 24, 2011 C.S. Wyatt A Peek Inside Our Dysfunctional Community: The Thinking Person's Guide to Autism at AutisticMe
- Sunday, September 25, 2011 Dixie Redmond Day 16: Thinking About Autism at Northdixie Designs
- Sunday, September 25, 2011 Landon Bryce The Importance of Being Emily at ThAutCast
- Sunday, September 25, 2011 Sarah Some Thoughts on the Self-Advocate/Parent Dialogues at The Thinking Person's Guide to Autism at Kitaiska Sandwich
- Sunday, September 25, 2011 Chris Erenata, On Parents Listening to Self-Advocates at Oh is THAT Right
- Sunday, September 25, 2011 Pia Prenevost, Sides at the Crack and the Light and at The Autism Blogs Directory
- Sunday, September 25, 2011 Emily Willingham, Listening to No Kid Gloves, No Muzzle at A Life Less Ordinary
- Monday, September 26, 2011, Autistic, Everybody Has Two Cents at AutisticSpeaks
- Monday, September 26, 2011, Kim Wombles What We Fight For at Countering and Autism Blog Directory
- Monday, September 26, 2011, Stuart Duncan, When Apples Talk to Oranges About Steak at Autism Father
- Monday, September 26, 2011, Rachel Cohen-Rottenberg, Impact, Intent, and Dialogue at in the Autism Community at Journeys with Autism
- Monday, September 26, 2011, Spectummy Mummy A Is for Advocacy at Spectrummy Mummy and Autisable
- Tuesday, September, 27, 2011, Sarah, Well, Now They've Done It at Planet Josh
- Tuesday, September 27, 2011, Autisms and Oughtisms What Are You Talking About: Of Whales, Ripples, and Advocacy at Autism Blogs Directory
- Wednesday, September 28, 2011 Rachel Cohen-Rottenberg A Protest March is Not a Dialogue at Journeys with Autism
- Wednesday, September 28, 2011 Laura, Seek First to Understand at House That Asperger Built and Autism Blogs Directory
- Thursday, September 29, 2011, Sarah, Advocacy: It's Complicated at Planet Josh
- Friday, September 30, 2011, Emily Willingham Is the disability-rights movement different from other civil righs movements in a critical way? at A Life Less Ordinary?
- Friday, September 30, 2011 Jean Winegardner Who Should Lead the Autism Rights Movement? at The Washington Times
- Friday, September 30, 2011 Jean Winegardner On the dialogues and being an ally at StimeyLand
- Friday, September 30, 2011 Alicia Lile About the TPGA Series at Moonlit Lily
- Friday, September 30, 2011 Kerima Cevik About the Dialogues at Autism Wars
- Saturday, October 8, 2011 Sullivan Who Should Lead the Autism Rights Movement at LeftBrain/RightBrain
- Wednesday October 12, 2011 Julia Roberts The Silo Effect at Support for Special Needs
- Wednesday October 12, 2011 Shannon Rosa The TPGA Dialogues, Discussed at Squidalicious
A modest (indeed, inadequate) listing of a few other resources:
- Derailing for Dummies Quite a few commenters mentioned this website, which takes a tongue-in-cheek approach to providing "A simple, step-by-step guide to derailing awkward conversations by dismissing and trivialzing your oppositions perspective and experience."
- From The Transcontinental Disability Choir: What is Ableist Language and Why Should You Care? a short introduction to the concept of ableism. There are many others.
- The History of the Autism Network International: The Development of A Community and Its Culture by Jim Sinclair
- The Self-Narrating Zoo Exhibit by Zifendorf "Coined by autistic activist Jim Sinclair, this term made its first Usenet appearance in 1994. It describes the position autistic people find ourselves in within most autism organizations, mailing lists, support groups, and even one-on-one interactions with parents of autistic children or curious professionals."
- A Neurodiversity Organization for Non-Autistics? by ASParenting
- Perspectives: "Who Has the Right?" By Emily Malabey at International Coalition for Autism and All Abilities (ICAA)