How to Get Naked, a panel on "identity blogging" lead by Blogher organizer Jory Des Jardins, Heather Armstrong (Dooce), Ronni Bennett (the link is to her thoughts on her presentation) & the afore-mentioned Koan Bremner (who was later in a not-funny conversation with Amber Nykola -more reported by Ronni.) (live blogged by Melissa Gira ) More on that session later.
Koan, bless her heart, has a taped transcript of the whole session.
Jory wrote, in announcing this blog,
The topics to be covered might be summarized:
Are you interested in how other bloggers manage the adulation, the flaming, the realities of a two-way conversation? This is a topic that we'd like to refine and present at BlogHerCon.
- How do your friends and family react to your blog writings?
- Have you ever been "outed" for something confidential you wrote on your blog?
- What boundaries do you set in writing or for commentors?
- What about, well, over-sharing (the example was Ayelet Waldman's essay on her thoughts of suicide)
Little Judy has a good wrap-up of the discussion. Amy Gahren reflects on her comments. Jay Rosen, in the middle of a rumination on the amount of apprehension expressed by the BlogHer attendees in general, reported
Simple example from the “How to Get Naked” session: If you tell the people you’re afraid might read your blog what you really think, then you don’t care if they read it. This is extremely practical advice. If you don’t want it on the front page of the New York Times, don’t publish it in your weblog.
Koan Bremner: If you out yourself, no one can out you. (Practical, also powerful.) Heather Armstrong: “I have a spouse who is 6-3, and he is very protective of me.” (And so even though it’s possible some deranged troll will come after me, I am not really worried about it, and will keep writing in this personal way of mine.)
Kevin Drum said,
Unlike all the other sessions I looked in on, this one actually produced some consensus from the panelists: they pretty much agreed with the common sense notion that if you're going to blog about your private life on the web, you ought to give some thought to who might be reading it. Sure, it can be a liberating thing to do, but you can also cause yourself a considerable amount of pain when you let the entire world know exactly what you think of your mother, your boss, your friends, and your spouse. So before you write something, pretend these people are sitting in front of you and decide if you'd say it anyway. Wise words. (Or, as Koan Bremner put it, "think of the worst possible person who could read your post, and then assume they're probably going to read it.")
If you would like to see photos, visit Sweetney. Inflatable Sheep , prompted by the panel, reflected on taking down her personal pages...and wonders if that decision removed a vibrant part of her web presence.