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Monday, February 02, 2004

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Liz

I should have added links to brat antidote:
Intro to love and logic parenting
how it works
examples of helicopter, drill sergeant and consultant parents:
Ways to neutralize arguing

Liz -no e-mails, please

This idea of solving public brattiness through slapping or spanking the parent and/or child, does not seem helpful or effective-it is my belief. I believe physical correction has not proved an effective way to solve problems. I work directly with many young children. I have found other ways to work with children, and have not needed or would ever choose to use physical correction. I believe this sets up a belief in the child's brain that says, "physical hurting is O.K." This seems to set up a precedent for similiar thoughts and behavoirs, such as, "I can punish others who wrong do me." Or, "My body's safety is more important than any other person that displeases me-I'll hit them if they are doing something I don't like." This seems to set up a need to defened against the opposer attitude. This attitude seems to set up a more or less constant "flight or fight" response in the body; which leads to stress, fear, anxiety, and belief in danger. At one Kindergarten, the teachers and I used this method when a child would hit another: I'd walk over to where the child that was hitting, and would say, "We do not use our hand for hitting, or hurting people. We use our hands for good things and good deeds,and working and playing." I would then lovingly pick up the child and let them sit on my lap and sing a fun song with them, so they could have time to "breathe Out" their anger emotions. I have had times in my life where I've felt fear and anxiety. On the positive side, I am able to always switch to choosing to feel peaceful, and I AM free to enjoy inner peace no matter what is going on outside of me. I also don't go to anyplace where it doesn't feel in my interest to go.

liz

Evidently the Liz that responded didn't take the time to check out Spanky's Place and to see that the prescription was tongue-in-cheek.

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