How do you establish how you are addressed by your grandchildren?
I do not wish to be called "Grandma Liz". I do not wish to be called "Grannie" (as much as I admire and wish to be like Granny Weatherwax).
The closest friend I have who is a grandmother is my friend Sue. She is happy with the name Nana, just as she addressed her own beloved grandmother.
My grandparents were (paternally) Mimi and Pops and (maternally) Grammie and Poppy. I'm not sure how those names came about. In the case of Grammie and Poppy, their first two grandchildren, born during WWII, lived with them until they were nearly school age, so the names may have just evolved.
My father decided that he would be "Jack", just as he was to almost everyone. That worked well as a name easy for a toddler to say. My mother was "Grandmother".
I have two grandchildren. The older is my older stepson's daughter. The younger is my younger stepson's son.
My oldest grandchild has been taught to call her grandmothers Abuela + given name, so I am Abuela Liz. Given her age and her dialect, it is more like aBuee Liz.
Personally, given the complexity and the cast of characters, I'd like a unique name.
I also think that there should be a naming convention that honors my step-sons' mother more than me. I'm not sure why I think that... but I think it has to do with boundaries. As it turns out in the current episode, I am available to do the more traditional grandmotherly duties like the fill-in babysitting, etc. We're a team, my step-sons' mother and I. It is a relationship that is really important to me, and I don't want to mess with the team feeling with names I didn't select.
I think I'd like to be some variation on Liz -- like Li'li or LeeLee or Lihlih.
My oldest (15 months) grandson is pretty good at truncating words at
this point. He'll point at a dog, and if he has the time, will say
"ruf!". But if he sees something interesting, or perhaps doglike,
he'll point, and say very clearly "fff!"
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